Sexual desire is a natural and essential part of being human, but it’s also strongly influenced by our minds, as revealed in a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. One of the most significant factors impacting sexual desire is the relationship with your partner. According to the study, women’s libido can take a hit when they are with an immature man who is inept at handling household responsibilities.
Being with a partner who doesn’t contribute equally at home or doesn’t know how to use common household appliances can lead to feelings of unfairness. When one person ends up doing most of the chores, they may start seeing their partner more like a dependent child. This shift can reduce their sexual desire. The study also found that stress isn’t the only reason for a low libido; dissatisfaction with home life, ongoing conflicts, and feeling overwhelmed by chores can also negatively affect one’s sex life.
Numerous studies show that open communication about fantasies and specific sexual desires can enhance sexual satisfaction and boost libido. Couples often share similar fantasies, such as having sex in unique or romantic settings, engaging in sexual submission, or using realistic toys like vibrators. To discuss these intimate desires comfortably and without fear of judgment, seeing your partner as an equal is crucial. Viewing your partner in a maternal or paternal role can diminish sexual desire and make it less likely to explore these fantasies together.
Ensuring more equality at home requires a mutual commitment to a set schedule and dividing household tasks fairly. Although one partner might promise to take on more responsibilities, good intentions often result in temporary changes. Some people might lack skills in specific tasks like cooking or using a washing machine. However, the more skilled partner can help their loved one learn these skills until they feel more confident. On the other hand, partners who need to pick up these skills should try not to see a push for equality as a personal attack. If necessary, couples might benefit from seeing a therapist or reconsidering their relationship if the issue is too significant.
Sexual desire is influenced by equality, respect, and commitment. Couples aiming for a more fulfilling sex life should strive for an equal division of chores. This approach can free up time for the overwhelmed partner to engage in fantasy, play, and other enjoyable aspects of their sex life.